Day 28: The Unsung Hero

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October
26

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Day 28 / GIVE 28

My son is a blessed child in so many ways. He is adopted and along with that comes the added value of great women in his life. He has an adopted mother (that’s me), a birth mother (that loved him enough to give him up), and a foster mother.

Foster mothers are remarkable women who choose to take children into their homes that have come from families that were unable to care for them in some way or another.

Foster mothers care for them, love them, support them, and let them go when it is time to be adopted by their forever family or go back to their birth family. I have met many foster mothers through my connection with The Ministry of Children and Family Development and they all have something very special in common.

Compassion: “The human quality of understanding the suffering of others and wanting to do something about it.”

That definition is a foster mother to a tee. They have the compassion to work with challenged birth parents, the compassion to deal with children that have been removed and or abandoned and they have the compassion to work with new adoptive parents to help them assimilate a child into their lives. We should be calling them social workers or social wonders.

In the case of my son, his foster mother brought him home from the hospital just 5 days old. She took the first pictures of him, gave him his first bath, rocked him to sleep, she even fell in love with him. She had nick named him Baby Love when we came to take him home at 11 weeks old. She has a calm confidence that support a helps baby’s transition and help them feel comforted even in their first days of life.

I had imagined the first moment I would hold my new child in my arms. I used to cry just thinking about it. In real life, it wasn’t the moment I held him for the first time that made me cry but the moment we were leaving his foster mother’s house that my tears just wouldn’t stop. We both cried. She loved him as much as I did.

We have stayed in contact and have regular visits with her. She is the one connection to Nicolas’ birth and I want him to know the women that took such great care of him in his first few weeks of his life. Today we are going for visit and we are bringing a car load of things for her. She is a foster mom to just babies now. I am bringing her boxes of cloths and gear for the future babies that come into her life.

Foster mom’s may be paid for their work but they are not paid enough for all the needs of the babies they care for and the 24 hour care a child needs.

My “mommy friends” entrust me to get their hand-me-downs to the right place. Today those items went to someone that is so deserving of a GIVE – Nicolas’ foster mother.

Time Commitment: 2 hours

Cost: Price of gas to drive to her home

2 Comments

  1. yeay. thank you for this beautiful article. and thank you for giving our baby stuff to the right people. i think that foster parents are a higher breed of human. i once the read the most beautiful article written by a foster mom who took care of a baby from birth to 7 months, and i could not stop weeping as she described putting her baby into a car, knowing it would be the last time she saw him. my son, lennox was 7 months at the time, and i could not imagine what compassion it took to do sleepless nights with a child that is not your own. i also could not imagine the strength and true love it takes to let them go. wow! wow! wow!

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